The work starts with how you deal with your own thoughts
Private coaching for individuals and families, the same work I do on site with operational teams. I help you change how you think about and respond to your own thoughts and feelings, so you can deal with the people around you and get where you are trying to go. I help. You make the changes.
The idea
Past you and future you
How often do the thoughts and emotions of the person you have become get in the way of the person you want to be?
Past you is a rule book built from old experience: beliefs, judgements, memories, and the stories your brain keeps writing to match them. Future you is the person you want to be, built on choice and purpose. The friction lives between the two.
Nothing happens in the past or the future. Action only happens in the present. Past you pulls you back into guilt, regret and replaying what went wrong. Future you, left unmanaged, turns into worry and "what if". The work brings both into the present, where a decision can be made.
What we work on
Four parts of the same work
Core values
Your own, not someone else's definition of success. They become the test for every decision you make.
Self-awareness
Catching the old rule as it fires, hearing the self-talk, and spotting the always-and-never thinking that narrows your options.
Emotional awareness
Naming the emotion and pinning it to the actual thing it is about, so you choose a response instead of running the reaction.
Relationships
Saying what you need, holding people to clear expectations without blame, and owning your part.
The method
Awareness, choice, action, reset
Your habits will always overpower your choices until you make changing them the choice.
Mental skills are trained, not innate. We work through the same process until the new response holds: notice what is running, choose what you want to do instead, do it, and reset when it slips. I show you where to look and how to practise. The change itself is yours to make.
This is coaching, not therapy. We work forward from where you are. If what you need is clinical care, I will tell you, and point you to the right person.
How it works
The same model I run on site
The work I do with operational teams, on site on a regular schedule, is the work I do one to one. There is no referral, no diagnosis and no waitlist. You book a conversation and we start.
- One to one: private sessions built around you, not a fixed program.
- In person or remote: face to face around the Lower Mainland, or by video wherever you are.
- Individuals and families: work on your own, or bring the people the friction involves.
- Month to month: there is no contract and no lock-in. Stay as long as it is useful.
Pricing
A flat fee to keep me available, plus the time you use
$300 / month keeps me embedded and on call for an individual, family, or micro-business. You add hourly time only when we are working together.
Thirty years coaching
Start with one conversation
We talk about what you are dealing with, and you decide from there. There is no pitch.